(before few minutes, swami was occupied with many friends. After leaving all except one friend named Neeti, swami was using his whatsapp to answer the query of his CS group friends’.)
Neeti: Hey!! Swami, how are you so popular, kuch jadu tona kar rakha he kya.
Swami (smiling face): Yo Neeto, mere ache nature ka jadu tona (laughing)!!! Najar mat laga meri popularity ko.
Neeti: Bus ha, natak mat kar. Are yar, muje bhi famous hona he, please tell me no how can I be likeable by others, mere to friends bhi ni he jyada.
Swami: Aww… chill yar, chal bata ta hu, Happy!!!
As per my sense datum and understanding, if person wants to be appealing among others, then one should have following traits:
If one is adaptable to circumstances, then he definitely favoured by others. Adaptability here means to change or adapt according to situation cum requirement. Many north Indians, especially person belongs to Uttar Pradesh and Bihar relocate to Gujarat for better life. They relocate to Gujarat and mix up with the Gujarati people in such a way that they speak gujarati fluently like other gujaratis’.
If one is not approachable then there’s doubt that one can attract people. Approachable in simple words means friendly. As per my understanding, approachable means person with whom one can easily interact without any hesitation or so called fear. Most of the readers will agree with me that there are some people with whom we hesitate to approach, reasons for such hesitance varies from person to person.
In this present era, where everyone engaged over social media for whatever reason it may be, if someone comes to you, even for general talk then keep your social media gazettes aside and listen to the person. ‘To win people, one should be a good listener.’
Convergent thinker doesn’t always refer to heal the problem. As per my understanding, if someone came to you to solve some of his problem but somehow you won’t able to help him, but you treat him such a way that he forget his problem and find ways oneself to solve his problem and feel happy that he has consulted you.
Fellow feeling pertains to ability of existing or performing in congenial combination with another or others. One must understand the level of thought of counterparts and respect the thought process and which should be visible in his / her behaviour.
Everybody likes a compliment, even ‘God’ too. It is the wish of feeling of importance which differentiates between human being and animal. In short, give honest and sincere appreciation. Don’t do flattery, although it will help for some time but not always. You might have heard from someone that it is better to have honest enemies than to have friends having nature of flattery.
Integrity refers to the combo of trust and honesty. Many also confirmed with me that if one wants to be the best – either best employee or best children or best spouse or even best friend or lover then one should have integrity at the top of his inter-personal skills.
Jugaad!!! What a word, invented by we Indians. If someone is very good at making jugaad or arrangements at anyhow then I don’t have to say that such juagdu person will always be in mind of others. Most of us have one friend (Bhai kuch jugaad ni ho sakta kya) who is jugadu, he na!!!?
Sense of humour
Ahaan!!! Copernican texture one should possess to live the life smoothly and easy going by keeping in mind the present era’s stressful scenario where almost everyone is occupied with some issues which might be related to career, study, relationships, social, etc. so, if someone carry a good sense of humour which assist others to forget their problems for a while then undoubtedly such person will be loveable by many.
Second reaction??? Confused, second reaction means to react towards situation after deliberate thinking and understanding of opposite person’s situation. Many one has experience that they feel guilty of their behaviour or action without understanding the actual situation, like sometimes we without any intention getting angry on mom due to frustration.
About the Author: CS Dharmesh Vankar – Company Secretary & Compliance Officer at Accord Synergy Ltd., Vadodara, Gujarat.
Disclaimer: The entire content of this write up is author’s own understanding and personal view.