Open Your Arms, If You Want to be Held

Urja Mahesh Karia

It is human nature to expect things from people. We expect from our loved ones, friends, peers, colleagues and even strangers. Sometimes, people fulfill our expectations, sometimes they don’t. But, is it really their mistake if they are unable to fulfill our expectations? What if the person doesn’t even know that you expect a particular thing from them? No one has those super powers where they can automatically hear or know what the other person is thinking in their minds.

The thing is very very simple. If you want to see something and you don’t open your eyes, how do you expect to see that thing? In the same way, if you want something, you have to ask for it.  How will someone do something for you or even help you if they don’t even know you need help. No one, not even we ourselves would go ask someone if they need help, without being aware of their situation.

A little bit of humility is not at all bad. It is nothing but knowing that you don’t know everything, that you don’t have an answer to every question that’s ever been asked.It’s ok to not be aware of everything going on in the world. And everyone, all the people no matter they accept or not, dig humility. When someone is honest with us about something they don’t know, we are more than happy to help. But No one feels like helping cocky people who act like they are the ones who put up all the answers for all the questions on Google. ‘Humility is the ability to give up our pride while still retaining our self-respect’. 

So is there a general way that would help anyone in any situation?‘We must figure out what you want and learn how to ask for it’.Once in a while taking help from people is quite good for us. it makes us realize that we cannot do everything on our own, which saves us the trouble of our over confident or cocky behavior. Keeping a check on ourselves never harms anyone. And if we take in the literal sense, we actually cannot do anything on our own, and this fact alone won’t lead us astray.

Basically, It all starts with the desire to look good in front of people, to be admired by people. If only we knew that how others look at us is all in vain, how we look at ourselves is the only thing that matters. And a great man is always willing to be little. He won’t mind if someone may think less of him. Because, at the end he himself knows how good he is.

Although many people subscribe to the school of thought that pride attracts people towards you. But, pride somehow make us artificial, and being humble brings out the human in us.  And no matter how successful or famous we are. We always owe to the Mother Earth. We owe her for our weight which she carries so efficiently and so gracefully.  So lets be humble and lets be kind, to others and to ourselves too.

As Tom Hiddleston said, “Stay hungry, stay young, stay foolish, stay curious, and above all, stay humble because just when you think you got all the answers, is the moment when some bitter twist of fate in the universe will remind you that you very much don’t.”