Shaifaly Girdharwal

Shaifaly GirdharwalSome years back I watch ‘Horrible Bosses‘ it was amazing to see the level of torture and I know so many employees should have feel relieved after watching that movie realising that their bosses are still bearable and they don’t need to plan any murder. There are so many articles on how to make work place better for employers but this one is for employees.What are the mistakes on our part that make our work places hell for us. I am listing here some of the behavioural controls that will make your life better at workplace.

1. Don’t make friends or foes:

Why:

1) Office is a workplace and your are supposed to maintain it strictly professional.

2) When you list someone as friend or enemy you get biased . you may be required to coordinate and work with people you hate and this will make your life hell.

3) People change as per their own requirements.When you are a friend you will expect support and favour and this may hurt you because it may not be feasible for either if you to favour each other.

2. Discussing personal matters in office:

Why:

I am a girl and I know it is our weakness , when we are in stress we need someone to listen to us.Generally life partner and family is there but if the reason of stress is family itself then where to relieve our stress.We do that in office with our colleagues. I am not blaming ladies I know even man do this but proportion is very less. I will say 75:25. Ladies can’t help sharing their personal things and emotions in office. Soon people around you know all of your weakness and if they are self composed they will soon start using your own weaknesses against you. Then you will have no solution, control yourself.

3. How to handle this

If you are sufferring some deep stress use portal like www.shepokeme.com where you can share your stress anonimously and you will feel relieved without losing your secrets.

4. Mind your own business:

why:

1) Everybody have their own expectations, when they will be disgruntle they will come to you and speak a lot of negative about company and boss.If you will start to react on those things you will be in blacklist of company for no reason and worst part will be when that person will resolve his issues with management and will be back in good books and you will lose both of the relations.

2) Other people will also mind their business when you will need them and they should.

5. Get engage in any emotional or physical relation

Why:

1) If you know about Mr. Fanish murty of Infosys and Igate. Lost his position two time for his alleged relationship in office. For any emotional or physical desire choose people outside office.

2) It is highly unprofessional to have affair in office this will make life of others uncomfortable.

3) Whatever you will do people with take it as a favour to that person, that will destroy your image.

I am open for suggestions and feedback

(Author Shaifaly Girdharwal is a Cross border business set up and process outsourcing Consultant)

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  1. shaifaly says:

    Thanks all for your comments….Here are my replies for some common issues raised by readers
    1) human make friends: by not making friends doesn’t mean to be rude to people…but it mean that be reasonable…so many people spend long hours in useless gossips, don’t do that…as far as possible try to not to be an active part of office politics.
    2) Solutions: I provided solutions too…..like when you have emotional problems….better to share at an unknown place like…www.shepokeme.com…login and you just type whatever you have in mind and you can hide your name..no body will know that its you …try it once you will feel much better…even people there will help you further.

  2. Mukesh says:

    Article is nice to read. But not true in all situations. Some affairs are better handled in house. I can argue on this issue as long as you can

    Mukesh
    09848548003

  3. Suneeta says:

    Hi Shaifaly

    Very nicely written & should follow every employee girl or boy working at any Organization at any level to keep our self secured & safe at every situation,

  4. CA SUNIL KUMAR says:

    Dear Shaifaly,

    Such a nice a TRUE facts that we all employees usually forgot the basic requirement to work in office.

    However at times it happens that you find people with good heart and become your friend. So we just need to focus to whom should we trust or not.

    Regards

    CA Sunil Kumar

  5. Bhavin Shah says:

    your suggestion of Not making a friends is quite perfect as per your view of thought but In my view during initial period of employment to penetrate in the office, it’s quite required and we need to make but we must have knowledge of all qualities of friend cum colleague for our personal benefit only. Be Selfish ..!

  6. CA MUTHUKORI says:

    EXCELLENT ARTICLE BY MS GIRIDHARLAL GOPAL.YOU HAVE WRITTEN THE REALITY IN ITS BEST.
    I WOULD SAY TO ALL AMBITIOUS PROFESSIONALS WHO ARE STARTING THEIR CAREER OR IN MID CAREER — NEVER LOVE YOUR COMPANY BUT LOVE YOUR PROFILE AND LOVE YOUR JOB,AS COMPANIES ARE LIKE PROSTITUTES.AS LONG AS YOU ARE USEFUL YOU WILL BE KEPT IN THE JOB AND THE MOMENT YOU ARE NOT USEFUL ACCORDING TO THE COMPANY’S PSYCHOLOGY AND PHILOSOPHY AND PERCEPTION,IN THE NAME OF RECESSION OR GLOBAL ECONOMY DOWN TREND,YOU WILL BE SHOWN THE DOOR WITH NO PRIOR INTIMATION OR MONEY.

    I WOULD LIKE TO INFORM FOR THE BENEFIT OF ALL READERS GLASSDOOR DOT COM IS ONE WEBSITE WHERE EMPLOYEES POST REVIEWS ANONYMOUSLY OF EMPLOYERS FROM TIME TO TIME WITH PROS AND CONS OF THE COMPANY AND ITS WORKING ENVIRONMENT AND CULTURE –SUCH AS WORKING TILL 2 AM OR 3 AM IN THE NIGHT OR BOSSES GIVE WORK AT 5 PM AND TELL YOU EVERY DAY THAT IT IS VERY URGENT AND NEEDS TO BE COMPLETED BEFORE MIDNIGHT FOR THE URGENT MEETING THE NEXT DAY MORNING.PLEASE REMEMBER THAT MANAGEMENT OF COMPANIES CARE A DAMN ABOUT SERVICE DEPARTMENTS AS FOR THEM SALES AND MARKETING IS THE FIRST PRIORITY, AS THEY BRING THE BUSINESS.SALES AND MARKETING WILL ALWAYS HAVE THE UPPER HAND BE IT INCREMENTS,PROMOTIONS AS THEY HAVE TARGETS TO EVALUATE PERFORMANCE.SERVICE DEPARTMENTS DO NOT HAVE TARGETS TO JUSTIFY THEIR PERFORMANCE AND IMPORTANCE OF THEIR JOB AND IT IS A EVERYDAY FIGHT FOR SURVIVAL WITH RECESSION WITH COUNTRY POLITICAL AND ECONOMIC AND INDUSTRY AND BUSINESS SITUATION.THERE WAS A TIME WHEN PROFESSIONALS LOVED TO WORK WITH BIG BRANDS.TIMES HAVE CHANGED.TODAY COMPANIES WHO PAY MORE GETS EMPLOYEES FASTER– TATA OR BATA OR DATA DOES NOT MATTER.LONGEVITY IN A COMPANY IS SHORT.GONE ARE THE DAYS WHEN EMPLOYEES WOULD LOVE TO BOAST 20 YEARS IN THE SAME COMPANY,30 YEARS IN THE SAME COMPANY.TODAY IT IS 1 OR 2 YEARS AT THE MOST IN ONE COMPANY AND THAT IS THE TREND.IF YOU WORK IN A COMPANY FOR 20 YEARS AND START SEARCHING IT IS NEGATIVE RATING FOR YOU AS COMPANIES PERCEPTION IS THAT YOU HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO FIND A JOB ANYWHERE SO STAYED SO LONG.STABILITY IS NO LONGER A FAVOURITE WORD OF THE COMPANIES. LOW COST IS .QUALITY IS NO LONGER THE BUZZWORD,ECONOMICAL IS THE TRENDY WORD THESE DAYS FOR COMPANIES.GET EMPLOYEES AT CHEAP AND GET WORK DONE.FORGET ABOUT QUALITY,EXPERIENCE AND EXPOSURE.AND IF COMPANIES DO NOT GET PEOPLE THE GULF RETURNEES ARE ALWAYS AVAILABLE AT CHEAPER COST.BUT COMPANIES WHO HAVE NOT TREATED EMPLOYEES WELL DURING RECESSION OR SHOW THE DOOR ONCE PROJECTS ARE OVER DO NOT GET PEOPLE EASILY DUE TO THEIR NON EMPLOYEE FRIENDLY REPUTATION AND SO HAVE TO PAY MORE THAN MARKET AND THAT IS WHERE ALL YOUNGSTER PROFESSIONALS SHOULD MAKE A KILLING BY TAKING FULL ADVANTAGE AND CASH IN ON THE NOT SO PROFESSIONAL EMPLOYERS REPUTATION.SUCH COMPANIES ALSO PAY MORE AS THEY KNOW THAT THE MOMENT THE PROJECT IS OVER THE EMPLOYEES WILL BE SHOWN THE DOOR.SO IT IS A WIN WIN SITUATION FOR SHORT TERM BASIS.

  7. Rahul says:

    Very well written.
    Facts!
    5 crunchy points!
    But it’s not like, being a girl you tend to lean towards emotions more. Guys share their own weaknesses too.
    Like, taking tasks on their Ego and muscularity.
    Attaching oneself to the organization too much…. and other likes.
    Anyway,Keep up the writing!

  8. Abhishek Chokhany says:

    Dear Shaifaly,

    Your article is interesting but less informative, I believe all professional will do agree to points cited your article, but being human, we tend to do what should not be done.

    As Indians, we even get too much attached to our work emotionally, take things on our ego, which again makes life in office a living hell.

    It will be nice if a remedy is also provided to “Crtl-Z” the things which has been done.

  9. CA Syed Kavish Rizvi says:

    Hey Sheffali….!!

    This is a really great and useful article. Some of the points mentioned above like friendly behaviour and very jovial nature is one of my you can say that is a kind of mistake that I use to do in office.
    But I really want to get rid of this. Because some time I myself feel awkward. Please give me some suggestion that can help to overcome on the same.

  10. Mayandi Shanmuganathan says:

    I agree with your points in general, except point no. 1.

    If the employees make friendship with other colleagues , it will create good working atmosphere and better co-ordination and team formation which will help to advancement in their career as well as good for organisation growth, provided if it is good and decent friendship.

  11. RAVI RAMAN says:

    VERY NICE ARTICLE AND EVERY PERSON SHOULD READ THIS AT LEAST ONCE WEATHER HE IS ALREADY JOINED OFFICE OR SUPPOSED TO JOIN THIS ARTICLE PROVIDE A BETTER GUIDANCE AT WORKPLACE

  12. Dhananjay Bhamare says:

    Hi,

    I completely agree with your article, even I say I was a victim of few of your points in article like as
    1) Making friend and expecting support. But it was when I was working as end user,but right now I am working as Manager in one of construction company, And find myself there quite unfriendly with others, because while working as end users I used to observe people who were seating in cabin or working on managerial level.
    2) I found many colleagues talking negatively about company and that makes me a lot difference in my own opinion, late on after leaving that organisation I realise (But i dont feel bad about my decisions) they who talks negatively still in the organisation working as end users.

    However I have a query about making friendship in offices, I mean we as a human being are social and talkative, we dont make friends but it is inhabitant. Then how we need to keep ourself detached or aloof?

    Thanks and Regards,
    Dhananjay

  13. Rashmi S says:

    Thank you Shaifaly for your wonderful points, I started my career in the corporate sector recently. And I think these suggestions will be useful for me.
    Thank you.
    Rashmi S.

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