Some years back I watch ‘Horrible Bosses‘ it was amazing to see the level of torture and I know so many employees should have feel relieved after watching that movie realising that their bosses are still bearable and they don’t need to plan any murder. There are so many articles on how to make work place better for employers but this one is for employees.What are the mistakes on our part that make our work places hell for us. I am listing here some of the behavioural controls that will make your life better at workplace.
1. Don’t make friends or foes:
1) Office is a workplace and your are supposed to maintain it strictly professional.
2) When you list someone as friend or enemy you get biased . you may be required to coordinate and work with people you hate and this will make your life hell.
3) People change as per their own requirements.When you are a friend you will expect support and favour and this may hurt you because it may not be feasible for either if you to favour each other.
2. Discussing personal matters in office:
I am a girl and I know it is our weakness , when we are in stress we need someone to listen to us.Generally life partner and family is there but if the reason of stress is family itself then where to relieve our stress.We do that in office with our colleagues. I am not blaming ladies I know even man do this but proportion is very less. I will say 75:25. Ladies can’t help sharing their personal things and emotions in office. Soon people around you know all of your weakness and if they are self composed they will soon start using your own weaknesses against you. Then you will have no solution, control yourself.
3. How to handle this
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4. Mind your own business:
1) Everybody have their own expectations, when they will be disgruntle they will come to you and speak a lot of negative about company and boss.If you will start to react on those things you will be in blacklist of company for no reason and worst part will be when that person will resolve his issues with management and will be back in good books and you will lose both of the relations.
2) Other people will also mind their business when you will need them and they should.
5. Get engage in any emotional or physical relation
1) If you know about Mr. Fanish murty of Infosys and Igate. Lost his position two time for his alleged relationship in office. For any emotional or physical desire choose people outside office.
2) It is highly unprofessional to have affair in office this will make life of others uncomfortable.
3) Whatever you will do people with take it as a favour to that person, that will destroy your image.
I am open for suggestions and feedback